John Packham
When it comes to the workplace, you’re going to encounter numerous problems, each different from the last. There is no one size fits all solution to any given issue; what worked last time, may not work this time. Keeping this principle in the forefront of your mind at all times is crucial when tackling problem-solving. This applies directly to your workspace, and your attitude when it comes time to negotiate raises or benefits. All that being said, let’s discuss your relationship with your boss, and why your potential may not be obvious to them.
Commanding Respect Versus Demanding Respect
There are two types of respect; commanded and demanded. When someone demands respect, they’re usually the type of person that the entire workforce rolls their eyes at. It’s not uncommon for them to receive a rather non-fetching title around the office, as well. When you command respect, it’s for a number of different reasons.
Contrary to popular belief, being timid doesn’t disqualify you from commanding respect –it makes it more difficult. Leading by example has always been the best way to naturally inspire morale and gain respect. This is something that’s often noticed by bosses and senior executives. When you can rally employees together without having to manipulate or threaten, you’ve exhibited true leadership traits that can’t be ignored, even if you stay quiet about them.
Why You Aren’t Commanding Respect
In order for others to see your potential, they need to know you’re alive first. One of the most respectful things you can do when faced with the feelings of inadequacy is to decline an additional task, and give a reason.
“Jason, I’d like these reports done today please.”
“I won’t be able to work on them today; I need to focus on a different priority task.”
It’s going to give a jolt to your boss that tells them “Jason isn’t an endless well of people pleasing power.” It will definitely get you noticed. Nobody remembers the “doormat employee” that took on extra work without complaining until they’re gone. It’s sometimes referred to as “aftermath potential.” You can’t use it, but it’s still there like a ghost.
Constant Complainer
The number one trait that nobody—your boss, your coworkers, I mean absolutely nobody can stand, is a serial complainer. Their potential is being masked up by their own negative behavior. To be quite blunt,, people seldom care about your personal life: don’t bring it into work. Unless you’re taking some time off for an untimely death or disaster, there’s no reason to talk about anything negative in your personal life—or about work—while you’re touring the cubicles.
Complaining signals to your boss that you don’t want to be here. Don’t bring everyone down with you. In silent moments, if you notice yourself complaining, rolling your eyes, or scoffing at anything, remember the impressions you may be making on others around you.
Flip Side: Nobody Likes The Optimist, Either
If you’re an optimist by nature, you’re a beacon of hope to those who are usually the complainers. However, one truth that reigns supreme is that people love to talk about themselves. Whether it’s personal drama or filing a dispute with the company that fills the vending machines down the hall, people will find something to talk about, and how it affects them. During these moments, offering a quick line of sympathy can work wonders in declaring neutrality. You’re not following the complainers, but you’re also not annoying people with your unbelievably chipper tone.
In a big way, this also shows potential to those skulking around that could have a say in your possibilities of a promotion. You’re keeping it short, impersonal, and distancing yourself from the dramatic effects in the work place. According to Business Insider, nearly half of the Human Resources managers stated that they were less likely to promote an employee based on how often they gossiped and initiated non-work related conversations with coworkers. It should be noted that a staggering sixty-two percent stated they were less likely to grant promotions or raises to those with pessimistic outlooks.
About My Potential
Here’s the freezing-cold, bitter truth: your boss can’t see potential if there’s nothing there. Do you actually enjoy your job? Are you happy at work? If you’re on a career track that you dislike, your true colors are going to shine through sooner or later. You don’t have to live and breathe the company and its interests, but you can’t be unhappy, or at the best, complacent.
You have to be able to negotiate properly to be a leader, and that doesn’t come easy to all. Even the most timid individuals can rock their job and turn some heads while doing it. It comes down to integrity, the ability to be honest, and keeping calm under pressure. If you can mentally dedicate yourself to your position, these traits will follow a natural path, each becoming a notch in your belt along the way.
Conclusion
The bottom line is this: your boss will notice your neutral/positive attitude, your ability to silently lead others, and your overall performance. This means how late you are, if you keep your uniform or business attire in order, how often you utilize sick days, and everything else you know you’re supposed to be doing for a job performance. Dedicate yourself to the position, and don’t be afraid to strike up some brave conversation with your boss. Let them know that you’re valuable, and let them know through example. The takeaway that you can recycle time and time again is this: actions speak louder than words. Every. Time.
